3.02.2010

Thoughts on Motherhood

"No other success can compensate for failure in the home."  ~David O. McKay

We're young, we're married, we're expecting a baby, and we plan to do it all on a masters student's stipen.  Yes, we're crazy!

Since we've moved to New York, I've met a number of people here at Miner, at work, and at church who prioritize family much like my husband and I have been raised to do.  However, there are many other people who plainly don't have that same mind-set.  It's what they're not saying that I hear loud and clear.  Their body language says it all.  I'd like to take a moment to defend myself and my decision to become a mother.

Yes, there are many sacrifices that come with having a child: I will sacrifice my sleep, my personal time, and money.  Travel will be more difficult.  I recognize that sometimes the highlights of my day will be playing with play dough and then finally getting around to sweeping the floor.  I will be at the beck and call of another, smaller, human being and I will be responsible to fulfill that child's needs.  My patience will be tried and I will become frustrated.  However, I don't see motherhood as the ultimate "losing" battle.  Instead, I see it as a great gain. I personally feel that raising another human being is one of the most meaningful things I can do with my time and my life.  I hope I will ultimately become a better person by being a mother to someone.  I will have an influence on someone else's life and a little on society.  I will be someone's hero (for a little while, at least).  I will be needed to wipe away the tears and fix a bleeding elbow.  I will receive hugs and kisses.  I will laugh.  I will learn.  I will get to spend time playing at the park.  I will gain a greater appreciation for my own mother.  I will have more people to love and more to feel proud of. 

I know motherhood will be a lot of work and I really have no clue, but I know it will be worth it.  The positives clearly outweight the negatives in my mind.  I think I will be a happier, more fulfilled, person in the end.  And that's what I want.  I want to be happy and whole. 

Now doesn't being a mother just sound way better than settling for a canine companion or a regular job that ultimately just pays the bills? 

I think so.  And I'm excited!  Bring it on!

5 comments:

  1. Amen! There were so many times when I was pregnant and even now with a one year old (yes, even in Utah) that people would give me "the look." I so wanted to stop and ask them, "May I ask what you problem is?" You are doing great and will be a great mother...and you are right, there is nothing so divine as being a mom!

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  2. Thanks Jess. I needed to hear that. Even though I'm not pregnant or planning on it, it's a good reminder. I often look at all my young pregnant friends and think, "Are you crazy?" I forget that being a mother is the greatest thing you can do in life.

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  3. What a beautiful description of motherhood! You're going to be such a fabulous mom.

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  4. Motherhood is my life's work. That's how I feel too.

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  5. It's amazing how much you sacrifice in motherhood, and yet, sacrifice is NOT a negative thing. There's nothing more fun or fulfilling (or hard) or amazing than motherhood. You're going to love it. Way to go! We're doing the same master's student/no income/new baby thing, and we're doing just fine. So will you!

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